Prayer Thread

[ALASKA HOOSIER]

prayers coming your/hers way

[Josh]

20 hours ago, Stuhoo said:

Hoping for peace and comfort for your family my friend. And a critically excellent reminder.

I’m so happy I followed that plan. My mom died this week at 93+ in extraordinary health until she fell ill and passed in a day. I spent a ton of time with her the past ten years and both myself and her were greatly rewarded by it. 

You're a lucky man.  My dad is just 73, my mother 74.  She has early stages of alzheimers and falls a lot.  My dad is always there to pick her up...but I don't think he's going to be with us much longer.  Then what happens to mom?

Sorry, just feeling bad I guess.  I'm sure it'll work out somehow

[hoosierfan6157]

Praying for your parents Josh!

[Stuhoo]

2 hours ago, Josh said:

You're a lucky man.  My dad is just 73, my mother 74.  She has early stages of alzheimers and falls a lot.  My dad is always there to pick her up...but I don't think he's going to be with us much longer.  Then what happens to mom?

Sorry, just feeling bad I guess.  I'm sure it'll work out somehow

No revelations from me; but I’m sure that sometimes things just plain old next-level suck and there’s no path to fixing it.

I’m so sorry the people you love the most are in that situation. Hope that you all find some peace and comfort.

[Dave from Dayton]

For those facing parents or loved ones with dementia...The 36-Hour Day: A Family Guide to Caring for People Who Have Alzheimer Disease, Related Dementias, and Memory Loss: Mace MA, Nancy L., Rabins MD MPH, Peter V.: 9781455521159: Amazon.com: Books

This resource book really is amazing and helps someone trying to cope with what to do and who can help.

I went to Indianapolis with two tickets for a basketball game in Bloomington.  Stopped by my in-laws to check on them.  Never got to the game.  Gave away the tickets to a nephew.  Did not go home for over a month.

Ended up staying with in-laws.  Escorted MIL to a routine Doctor appointment with a list of over 35 issues.  MIL stated that I exaggerated things.  She was in denial.  Doctor was not a geriatric-trained medical professional. The last time that doctor saw MIL.

It was hell.  I did not become friends with my inlaws. But they did get in-home day care.  And eventually I sold my FIL on assisted living because he understood that once he couldn't help her...

Check out the book.  Good luck.  And very seriously, get HIPAA power of attorney, financial power of attorney, a living will, and check their meds daily.  Do not take no for an answer.

MIL said once her Rx ran out she did not need to refill them. FIL was subsisting on ice cream.

And if one or the other gets depression and dementia...they really do need professional help.  

And believe it when I say, one person cannot provide the care some need.  Give the caretaker breaks, regularly.

[8bucks]

13 hours ago, Dave from Dayton said:

For those facing parents or loved ones with dementia...The 36-Hour Day: A Family Guide to Caring for People Who Have Alzheimer Disease, Related Dementias, and Memory Loss: Mace MA, Nancy L., Rabins MD MPH, Peter V.: 9781455521159: Amazon.com: Books

This resource book really is amazing and helps someone trying to cope with what to do and who can help.

I went to Indianapolis with two tickets for a basketball game in Bloomington.  Stopped by my in-laws to check on them.  Never got to the game.  Gave away the tickets to a nephew.  Did not go home for over a month.

Ended up staying with in-laws.  Escorted MIL to a routine Doctor appointment with a list of over 35 issues.  MIL stated that I exaggerated things.  She was in denial.  Doctor was not a geriatric-trained medical professional. The last time that doctor saw MIL.

It was hell.  I did not become friends with my inlaws. But they did get in-home day care.  And eventually I sold my FIL on assisted living because he understood that once he couldn't help her...

Check out the book.  Good luck.  And very seriously, get HIPAA power of attorney, financial power of attorney, a living will, and check their meds daily.  Do not take no for an answer.

MIL said once her Rx ran out she did not need to refill them. FIL was subsisting on ice cream.

And if one or the other gets depression and dementia...they really do need professional help.  

And believe it when I say, one person cannot provide the care some need.  Give the caretaker breaks, regularly.

Have been going through this on both sides.  Aging parents can be like middle school kids, hear you but ignore you at the same time.  If someone that looks like a doctor says X, they generally do X and do not think to challenge it.  Always be checking meds.  One Dr put my mom on some medicine 2 years ago and she slipped into a deep sleep for 2 months.  She went into skilled nursing and trying to get that Dr to agree to let her come off that medication was a battle.  Once off she woke up in 2 days.  Most places just keep adding meds and they get this list of meds that are sometimes meant to be temporary but they never stop.  Then as you say, they easily run out of ones that are supposed to be on-going and they do not refill.

Dementia is so tough.  FIL going through a tough time with that and has had some aggression as well recently.  Hard to find a place for him but being in the hospital for some that age just makes it worse.  

For those not there yet, plead with your parents to develop a plan.  Where would you go if...  Get a few places visited ahead of time so that part is figured out.

Get the power of attorney done now.  You may never use but if you do it is done.

Figure out a financial plan now.  You may have several varieties depending on what happens but get familiar with what resources they have and what is available out there.  Elder lawyers are expensive but trying to figure it out is hard too.  

The more you can figure out today the less stress you will have it something changes and they need to initiate one of the plans.

We got 2 more years with mom only because we really started to question her meds.  We got lucky and were able to get her off the one that nearly took her life.  Be active and if you have siblings try to make sure you are on the same page.  In the end, you will probably have to settle with being on most of the same pages because seeing our parents go through this will lead to differing opinions.  Getting the easy stuff done and agreed to will allow more time to discuss the hard stuff.

[Naturalhoosier]

Hey Prayer Warriors, I have a friend who was recently diagnosed with stage 4 lung, bone, and lymph node cancer. Dr said 6 mos at best. She’s like a second mother. I hate seeing bad things happen to such wonderful people. Please add Linda to your daily prayers. She asked me today to be a pall bearer. Not a request one often receives, but was honored to receive it. Appreciated. 

[Class of '66 Old Fart]

2 hours ago, Naturalhoosier said:

Hey Prayer Warriors, I have a friend who was recently diagnosed with stage 4 lung, bone, and lymph node cancer. Dr said 6 mos at best. She’s like a second mother. I hate seeing bad things happen to such wonderful people. Please add Linda to your daily prayers. She asked me today to be a pall bearer. Not a request one often receives, but was honored to receive it. Appreciated. 

Consider it done.

[hoosierfan6157]

Praying 

[woodenshoemanHoosierfan]

Hey Prayer Warriors, I have a friend who was recently diagnosed with stage 4 lung, bone, and lymph node cancer. Dr said 6 mos at best. She’s like a second mother. I hate seeing bad things happen to such wonderful people. Please add Linda to your daily prayers. She asked me today to be a pall bearer. Not a request one often receives, but was honored to receive it. Appreciated. 

I've been praying

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[ALASKA HOOSIER]

sending them

[Naturalhoosier]

Keep those prayers coming!  I was informed that they moved her time table from 6 months to 6 weeks.  Cancer is an aggressive MFer.

[mamasa]

On 8/17/2023 at 10:53 AM, Naturalhoosier said:

Hey Prayer Warriors, I have a friend who was recently diagnosed with stage 4 lung, bone, and lymph node cancer. Dr said 6 mos at best. She’s like a second mother. I hate seeing bad things happen to such wonderful people. Please add Linda to your daily prayers. She asked me today to be a pall bearer. Not a request one often receives, but was honored to receive it. Appreciated. 

Absolutely my friend! Prayers for all affected!! 

[mamasa]

On 8/9/2023 at 9:49 PM, Dave from Dayton said:

For those facing parents or loved ones with dementia...The 36-Hour Day: A Family Guide to Caring for People Who Have Alzheimer Disease, Related Dementias, and Memory Loss: Mace MA, Nancy L., Rabins MD MPH, Peter V.: 9781455521159: Amazon.com: Books

This resource book really is amazing and helps someone trying to cope with what to do and who can help.

I went to Indianapolis with two tickets for a basketball game in Bloomington.  Stopped by my in-laws to check on them.  Never got to the game.  Gave away the tickets to a nephew.  Did not go home for over a month.

Ended up staying with in-laws.  Escorted MIL to a routine Doctor appointment with a list of over 35 issues.  MIL stated that I exaggerated things.  She was in denial.  Doctor was not a geriatric-trained medical professional. The last time that doctor saw MIL.

It was hell.  I did not become friends with my inlaws. But they did get in-home day care.  And eventually I sold my FIL on assisted living because he understood that once he couldn't help her...

Check out the book.  Good luck.  And very seriously, get HIPAA power of attorney, financial power of attorney, a living will, and check their meds daily.  Do not take no for an answer.

MIL said once her Rx ran out she did not need to refill them. FIL was subsisting on ice cream.

And if one or the other gets depression and dementia...they really do need professional help.  

And believe it when I say, one person cannot provide the care some need.  Give the caretaker breaks, regularly.

36 Hour Day is definitely one of the best resources- I just recommended it last week to a co-worker who is new to this battle.  Thank you for sharing, just a horrible disease

[woodenshoemanHoosierfan]

Keep those prayers coming!  I was informed that they moved her time table from 6 months to 6 weeks.  Cancer is an aggressive MFer.

Sad to hear. Prayers continuing

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[Naturalhoosier]

On 8/23/2023 at 7:41 AM, Naturalhoosier said:

Keep those prayers coming!  I was informed that they moved her time table from 6 months to 6 weeks.  Cancer is an aggressive MFer.

6 months to 6 weeks to 3 weeks. Soar on eagles wings, Linda.  :(

[Hovadipo]

Sorry to hear that Natty. Thoughts and hugs to you dude.

[Stuhoo]

41 minutes ago, Naturalhoosier said:

6 months to 6 weeks to 3 weeks. Soar on eagles wings, Linda.  :(

Sad news - all my best to you and your family Natty.

[Class of '66 Old Fart]

51 minutes ago, Naturalhoosier said:

6 months to 6 weeks to 3 weeks. Soar on eagles wings, Linda.  :(

What a kick in the teeth.  Sympathies to you and to Linda's family.

[ALASKA HOOSIER]

Sorry to hear about Linda, Natty. Prayers to you and her family